“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it’s not the answer.”
Says Jim Carrey
So you thought becoming popular would get all that you ever wanted? Recently I see a lot of people on social media making their personal Instagram accounts public, starting a blog without a purpose just aiming at becoming popular and urging to get validation. Of course, there are really good profiles where people put so much effort to come up with their work and offer so many services.
Certainly, I understand every human on this earth needs approval and validation. It’s an innate human behaviour to expect from others to acknowledge our work, beauty and validate our actions. But sorry, becoming popular will not help you get what you wanted.
Having more personal connections is going to make you stronger and share your ups and downs. I know how much ever you want to brag about your promotion, famous boyfriend, new phone, house and car, trust me you need people to share your deepest fears, anxiety and the horrible situations that life had put you through. In fact, you need more love and support when you face hard times.
Through personal experiences, I learnt not bragging about my abilities and achievements but sharing my deepest fear and being truthful about my negative feelings had helped me feel more connected. I felt so blessed when I had people who didn’t shut me down for what life put me through instead being there for me at my lowest possible times. There is a TedxTalks on Simple cure to loneliness, please check it out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSXh1YfNyVA
I’m sure you would have also heard the term “Jealous”. Another natural behaviour that all of us have. No matter how much ever you have, you are never going to be satisfied. There is a simple connection between jealousness and popularity, which is nothing but when you do better, achieve more and brag about it to the other person who indeed puts himself down and feels envious. This drives him apart from you. Do you want that? Or want him to be there for you to love and support at any time? I’m sure you want both. Try personally connecting more than running after fame simply.
Sia hides her visage with huge bows, wigs, and all manner of headgear. Have you ever wondered why she did it? There were a lot of controversies on why she did it.
“I just wanted to have a private life. Once, as my friend was telling me they had cancer, someone came up and asked, in the middle of the conversation, if they could take a photograph with me. You get me? That’s enough, right?”
She told the New York Times in 2014.